So far we've seen three adoption stories on "16 and Pregnant"--Catelynn, Lori, and now, Ashley. They all had different experiences with their adoptions, which is no surprise since the laws and adoption arrangements vary from state to state. Here are some basic facts about adoption:
Birth mothers in the United States usually place children for adoption either through an agency or an attorney. Agencies provide counseling and support services during the pregnancy and after the adoption takes place. They also help the birth mother select an adoptive family. Private attorneys who specialize in adoption often cover all the same stuff the agencies do. Either way, it's important to do your research and work with someone you trust and feel comfortable with. Placing a child for adoption shouldn't cost the birth mother any money--all costs and fees are usually paid by the adoptive family.
Open Adoptions
This is when the birth mother chooses the adoptive family, they get to know each other and they stay in touch. That can mean letters, photos, phone calls or in-person visits--whatever the birth mother and adoptive family decide.
Closed Adoptions
This is when the adoptive family is not known to the birth mother at all. They can still exchange letters or photos, but that kind of communication would go through a third party, and they probably wouldn't use last names or other identifying details. Closed adoptions were much more common decades ago, but not so much anymore.
Depending on the laws of the state, the biological father of the baby may have to be involved as well. If he is unknown or can't be located, there are legal steps to go through in order to complete the adoption without him. Agencies and attorneys can help with that.
Again, laws vary from state to state so it's important to talk with experts where you live if you are considering adoption. It's also a good idea to talk with other people who have been in your situation as you consider options. There are lots of resources online to help someone who is making an adoption plan--ichooseadoption.org is a good place to start.
--Written by Amy Kramer of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy