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Cassie and I met each other in the beginning of September 2006. Two weeks later, we were dating, and less than a month later she proposed to me. People may think it was too early for us to get married, but we totally knew what we were doing. From the first day we hung out, we fell in love immediately and have spent every night and day with each other. We just can’t get enough!
The difference between Cassie and I hasn’t gone unnoticed. We’re exact opposites. We hardly have the same interests in anything — we don’t really like the same music, she hates being outside, I hate playing dress up. Even though we clash in many ways, the main thing that we both have learned is to compromise. What we love makes us who we are, and Cassie is willing to learn to like the things I love to do and the same goes for me. Cassie’s a prissy, spoiled, pessimistic princess while I’m more laid-back and optimistic. I swear we were made for each other. Not until now do I believe opposites attract!
When we first got engaged, our parents didn’t take us seriously when we said we wanted to get married. I think they might have been a little confused at first, but we wouldn’t take no for an answer. My mother, Rafaela, didn’t really start working on her part in our ceremony until the last couple of weeks and, because of that, everyone was freaking out because of the time shortage. It was June before we even knew it. Stress levels were high and heads were butting like crazy.
I’m pretty chill when it comes to making decisions; whatever Cassie likes, I like. But when planning a wedding, things were a little different. Seeing Cassie stress made me stress. She and my mother had a little falling out, but things turned out OK in the end. After all the arguments and confusion, we all got through it and made everything as beautiful as possible. The ceremony and reception was almost as perfect as we wanted it to be.
On the morning of the wedding, I realized I hadn’t even written my vows! So I just took some time to erase all the negativity and remember all the reasons why I fell in love with Cassie. In the couple of minutes I had left before heading out to English Gardens, on a little piece of paper, this is what I wrote: “Cassie, I love you more than anything in this world. From the beginning I knew you were the one for me, and I will always live on knowing that. With you, judgment and pain does not exist. I want to share my future, conquer all my goals and achieve all my happiness with you. Everything I am belongs to you and I’ll dedicate my life to us. You are my everything, my love, my peace of mind. You are perfection and together we are the ultimate. I love you, Cassie.”
As of now, we’re currently still in the parent’s house but we’re in the process of moving out. So far, so good. We still need some time to get things together but we’re in love and everything should be just fine. Though we don’t have our own place yet, we have everything we need. We went furniture shopping the first two weeks we were dating — we were totally prepared for this! Cassie and I are working on getting out in about three to four weeks; things should be pretty good then.
To the lesbians out there that are preparing to “come out” to the world: take it slowly. When you come out to your parents, don’t force them to understand or accept it. Give them time and eventually they’ll realize you’re never going to change. Go with the flow and, if you let it be, it’ll all go your way.
If you’re ever planning on getting married make sure:
1. The parents do the planning with each other and with you.
2. You have no budget (they never work anyway).
3. To enjoy your day! If you stress too much, you’ll miss out on the good things. It only happens once, so embrace it.
August 13th, 2007 at 8:13 pm
I just wanted to say you guys looked so beautiful in your wedding, and I just want to congratulate you on everything. You guys always remembered how much you loved eachother no matter what problem came at you. I wish you the best of luck, and all the happiness in the world. Stay strong ladies. Remember..true strength is being able to hold it all together, when everyone else expects you to fall apart. Take care, and much love! XOXO!!
August 13th, 2007 at 8:25 pm
hello! umm this is kind of crazy but i feel like this will help me and my girlfriend. Let me start by saying I really dnt watch the show that much but when i seen this episode i could not help but cry. There is nothing that i dnt love about what you guys did. So the reason why i wrote is because i wanted to know how you guys did all of it. See we are from San Francisco(in cali) and as u know our city dose not allow same sex marrige. SUckz! I kno! you prolly cant give out where you live n things like that but i just wanted to know where we could do what u guys did. Its so funny how much you guys remind me of us. well anything that you guys mite know that will help us we would relli love to know and i relli hope to hear from u soon!
sara&kia!~
thanx!
August 13th, 2007 at 9:22 pm
My girlfriend and I watched your episode today and were very touched! We got engaged quickly as well and could definitely relate to all the stress. Hope all goes beautifully for the both wives and you enjoy apartment living.
August 13th, 2007 at 9:33 pm
Im not a lesbian… but i think you two are so cute together. I respect how you guys didnt hide your feeling for eachother, even though some people dont approve.
I wish you guys all the best!
August 13th, 2007 at 9:42 pm
hey i just wanted to tell yall that i loved yalls episode. yall are so cute and perfect together. i wish yall the best. yall helped me remember the reason why me and my b/f fell in love to never give up hope.
August 13th, 2007 at 10:03 pm
I just saw your show and man it made me cry..rachel and I have been together for 1 yr and 3 months and she is the love of my life..unfortunelty, we are unable to wed due to our military lives…she will be leaving me in a month to Iraq…and I would like nothing more than to marry her before she leaves…you guys are so lucky!!! H0pe you are happy~Take care~
August 13th, 2007 at 10:10 pm
I’m not married but I know what you went through with coming out. I wish you two the best you make a gorgeous couple.
August 13th, 2007 at 10:13 pm
I think you two are an inspiration to all gay couples (male and female). That really takes guts. I bi and I haven’t told my mom yet (kinda don’t plan on it till I move out). KEEP ON TRUCKIN LADIES!!!
August 13th, 2007 at 10:17 pm
u guys r so cute!!!!!! i wish u all the best in the future n all the happiness in the world n hope u don’t get lost along the way lol lol lol
August 13th, 2007 at 10:17 pm
Hey i loved your show my friend and i stayed on the phone the whole time watching it!Yours was my favorite one!
August 13th, 2007 at 10:20 pm
Ok, well seeing that i am a lesbian myself and im 18 i certainly have a response for Emmelie & Cassie. First off you two are so hot together. I have a girlfriend and we are both young she’s alil older than me but she is still young, we’ve been dating for a short time now, and i already inlove with her i feel as if we can go thru a wedding right now. Seeing you two on tv has really helped me understand more of why i love her and want to take the step forward. The show really reminds me of me and my girlfriend, we are very different in many ways but one of us will compromise for the other she has taught me that, and i see why it’s a good thing watching you two. The love you guys have shared with each other in this show is truly something amazing. I wish you two the best of luck in making happiness within your new family.
August 13th, 2007 at 10:23 pm
Hi,
I watched your episode and thought it was really brave of you. I’m glad your father was accepting, although, he always was because how else would you be able to live in the house. Anywho, I wish the both of you lots and lots of luck and well wishes for your future. You both looked absolutely beautiful in your wedding dresses.
Ajia
August 13th, 2007 at 10:43 pm
My name is Monique. I am 14 years old and I am bi-sexual. My best-friends sister who is 19 has been helping me out with my thoughts and everything because she too is bi. I am hoping for advice and help for when I “come out.” My parents with have a hard time with it especially my dad. My older sister is just full of negative things about lesbians…It is upseting for me because I dont want my family to like hate me. I really need help.
please I need someone else to talk to who knows where I am coming from.
~Monique
August 13th, 2007 at 11:12 pm
hey cassie and emmelie…i loved the show…u 2 r so cute 2gether…..i feel u guys both wit the hole leesbian thing as im one my self and my mom doesnt like it and even though its been like 8 mths since i told my moms….its so diffucult knowin ur mom doesnt like who u r but i fell someday she’ll understand…well anyways love yea guys…loved ur episode…bye cassie and emmelie…ooo yea good luck 2 u both in ur marriage….
August 13th, 2007 at 11:14 pm
i was wondering if you guys filed for a domestic partnership? or did you just want to have commitment ceremony?
August 13th, 2007 at 11:32 pm
I WANT 2 WISH YOU THE BEST AT YOUR MARRIAGE. TAKE IT ONE DAY AT TIME. AND THINGS WILL WORK OUT. I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN ALSO. I WAS TRULY IN LOVE WITH HER BUT UNFORTUNATELY SHE DIDNT FEEL THE SAME FOR ME. THAT WHOLE SITUATION KIND OF MESSED MY MIND UP PRETTY BAD,” BUT HEY ,WHAT DOESNT KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER.” IM DOING FINE NOW. I JUST CHOOSE TO FOCUS ON ME AND MY CHILD NOW. AND IF ANOTHER WOMAN COMES INTO MY LIFE AGAIN, ILL BE MORE CAUTIOUS. AGAIN CONGRADULATIONS, AND DONT LET ANYONE COME BETWEEN YOUR MARRIAGE.
DANIELLE
August 14th, 2007 at 12:09 am
I just want to say that I was captivated by your story. I wish you both the best of luck. I think you too are the cutest thing ever. I fell in LOVE with your love story. Keep us posted on how your doing if you can.
Love
Melody
August 14th, 2007 at 12:11 am
you two made me laugh through out your entire episode because my girlfriend and i are complete oposites as well! we’ve been together for over 2 years, but our parents don’t know. they think we are best friends… sure enough! how was it when you came out to your parents?
August 14th, 2007 at 12:19 am
Congrats to u guys! I hope everything works out and you guys did prove to me that love no bondries.
August 14th, 2007 at 12:49 am
You guys think you know everything and you dont I was 16 and my hubby was 18 when we got married by the time we turn 25 we both were starting to grow apart and im not saying that will happen to you but love is not always enough and you wife disrespecting your family like that is wrong how would she feel when you guys start having kids if there mate talked to her the way she talks to your mom
August 14th, 2007 at 12:56 am
I really liked this episode. My parents are somewhat accepting of me being a lesbian, and I know if my girlfriend and I ever got married it would definitely be a stressfuly time. I’m happy the wedding went smoothly for them and hopefully they live happily ever after. yee yee for lesbians haha.
August 14th, 2007 at 1:23 am
I wish you girls all the best. Loved the episode it was the best i’ve seen yet. I can see from the way you girls are that you really love each other and deserve to have all the happines in the world. Congratulations!!! I wish I had the same luck finding the right person like you girls found each other. Best Wishes!!!!
August 14th, 2007 at 1:45 am
Hey,
We are a lesbian couple and my girlfriend is afraid to tell her family about me. I watched ur episode and saw that you had to go thru facing them how did you feel?..And I was wondering if you had any advice for her??
Brittney and Melissa
August 14th, 2007 at 2:13 am
I loved the halter top dress so much! Who is the designer? I love it! I want it for my wedding.
You two make a beautiful couple, best of luck:)
August 14th, 2007 at 3:33 am
i think its pretty cool that mtv filmed a lesbian engaged and underage,
it’s nice to see that since its still kinda unaccepted by a lot people.
i wish the best of luck to the both of you girls:)
your wedding, from what was shown, was beautiful.
August 14th, 2007 at 5:00 am
I am so impressed by both of you, not only fearlessly marrying despite your parents beliefs, but to do so on television. I’m sure that your story will inspire more love in the world, which we’re all in desperate need of. It’s so terribly disgusting when people put restrictions on love; love is as endless as the sky and as boundless as the ocean. Knows no gender, knows no age, knows no color. I found your story beautiful and breathtaking, inspiring as well. I hope the both of you have a wonderful, blessed, and magical marriage.
Now…a question? Both your dresses were absolutely GORGEOUS! Who designed them?
August 14th, 2007 at 9:27 am
Cassie and Emmelie i just want to say i am happy for the 2 of you, i am jessica and i thought from watching your wedding it was beauitful yeah you both had a littles arguments but its somthing you couldnt get by. anyway also i just wanted to say you both make a wonderful couple and also i know what its like loving that one girl soo much and you being a girl too and having 2 parents who dont accept it nor like it. i have not told my father…and i dont if i should hes really hard to get through….and im afriad if i tell him im Bi he will never talk to me agian. and my mom she is stressing over it and i dont know what to do or how to tell them i cant change and also their is this girl i like and i wanna ask her out but i dont know how to ask…her…ahaaa so yeah its complents and a little advice. aha well anyway hope you 2 have a wonderful life together and i am so very happy for you
August 14th, 2007 at 9:39 am
I think its so great watching yall on MTV it makes me feel so much better about letting everyone know it wont be long now before I plan to marry my girlfriend Kyndal.. I made her watch the show with me becuase she tells me no one takes us serious cause im a spoiled selfish get what I want brat… I get everything while she is more laid back and could care less about designer clothes and purses. she buys me what I want when I want it.. and Just to show her that yall are some what like us and got married I think made her see we are not the only ones.. yall are so sweet and hope yall make get best of wishes ToRi….
August 14th, 2007 at 10:13 am
Ok. Wat to say. My name is Heather and i am in a long term relationship with a female. I am 17 and she is 16. We have been together for 7 months and she proposed to me not to long ago. It is very frowed upon where i come from and both where she comes from. Both of our mothers know about us however her father doesnt. She is having a hard time coming out to him because he isnt as “gay friendly” as our mothers are. I would really love to walk down the isle with this girl and our story is very similar to yours. When i saw the episode of Engaged & Underage with the two of you it really inspired me that it really isnt impossible to do this. My questions are this….wats your best advice i could give to her about coming out to her father and the most important question is where did you find someone willing to marry a lesbian couple? Ive been trying to look for someone but i must be looking in all the wrong places. We both know that because neither of us are 18 yet that we cannot marry even if we found someone willing but i will be 18 in october and i would really like to begin the search and the planning as soon as possible. Thank you again because you both inspire me.
P.S~You two make a cute couple!
Sincerely,
Heather Nicole
August 14th, 2007 at 10:58 am
Emmelie watching your wedding realy made me think of who i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Also with me being bi everything just seems to be more complicated.i have gone out with my best friend haylee for 4 months but shortly after she broke up with me. That momment felt like i was goin to die if i wasnt with her. though i am only 14 i feel like we will be together for a long time to come. I don’t know if we should go out again. She is a laid back smart tempermental girl who is everything to me.
August 14th, 2007 at 11:42 am
Hey Cassie & Emmelie,
Well Im very happy 4 the two of you! I love how you guys really dont care about what peaople think of you..you guys arn’t ashamed or emmbaressed or anything because you guys are in love! Your wedding came out so beautiful and you girls looked beautiful as well..I am truely happy for you guys and hope it lasts forever and ever..
Love Always,
Emma
August 14th, 2007 at 11:45 am
I am so happy for you girls. I have been with my love for 3 an a half years. We are planning to get married but just have not found the right time to do it. Questions is it legal to get married in Florida or you just decided to have a ceremony. Well Although you are young you still know what is right for you and I hope that you grow old and happy together.
August 14th, 2007 at 11:48 am
One more thing. What part of florida are yall from? Do yall have a myspace page. Would love to check it out. Yall seem like cool people..
August 14th, 2007 at 12:13 pm
Just bored at work. What are yall doing? Think about ever moving out of florida?
August 14th, 2007 at 1:27 pm
I wish you 2 the best of luck. My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 months and we’re so in love with each other. We can some how relate to you because we’re the exact opposites as well. She’s sensitive and i can be insensitive at times….so she says. She’s more stay at home and i love to go out. But we’re still so madly in love. I hope everything goes well in life for you 2. Take care and best wishes.
August 14th, 2007 at 1:36 pm
HEY U GUYS WHEN I SAW UR SHOW I WAS LIKE WHAT THE ……
BUT I WAS JUST WOUNDERING HOW DID U GUYS MEET DID U SAY U GUYS MEET ON MYSPACE??? PLEASE RIGHT BACK I WANNA NO OK
XD
PEACE OUT
August 14th, 2007 at 2:37 pm
Hi girls.
Let me just say you guyz were my favorite couple to ever make it on engaged and underage. I loved the wedding and both of you looked beautiful in your wedding dresses. Im confussed about my orientation but i’ve dated and liked both guyz and girls and your wedding touched me b/c i know that if i someday marry a girl i can have a beautiful wedding like you guyz. Good luck with everything and have a wonderful marriage
August 14th, 2007 at 2:42 pm
I think you are a really cool couple. When you met were you already a lesbian or did you start right after you met eachother? What is next for you guys? Thanks, Sarah
August 14th, 2007 at 3:48 pm
I loved your episode!! You 2 are adorable together, and I’m all for gay marriage. I’m not gay myself but I do however support it.
You both looked gorgeous the day of the wedding, and I’m not going to lie I almost started crying.
I hope you two are happy together and you have a wonderful life/marriage.
August 14th, 2007 at 4:27 pm
Hey Emmelie and Cassie! Wow! I am just so happy that i can talk to you guys and tell you both how i feel..i want to say this in the shortest way possible (so i dont bore you guys)lol … Your episode on engaged and underage really inspired me to the max! Because i am in the same situation you guys were in! And im living with my girlfriend Michelle and her parents because i got kicked out of my house (for being a lesbian) and i really just need someone to talk to right now! The deal is, is that im really loosing faith in our relationship and i just really wish you guys would talk to me and help me out.. I am having problems living with them right now because her dad doesnt except us just like emmelie’s dad and i would just really appreciate it if somehow i could talk to you guys about it in any way, im not a stalker or anything, just please give me a chance. And one day i would like to marry Michelle but i also need to know how to get ahold of unions and the such! So please reply back to me! Thank you both so much for your time! Hope to hear from you!
Thanks again!
-Jenna
August 14th, 2007 at 5:12 pm
Your episode was my favorite. You seem like really cool people and I would like to get to know you girls. I have a myspace account so if you want to get to know me and become friends we can exchange myspace screennames. Best of luck in your marriage!!
August 14th, 2007 at 5:18 pm
Your episode was my favorite. You’re really cute together and really cool girls. I thought we could get to know eachother on myspace and become friends. Good luck in your marriage!!
August 14th, 2007 at 5:28 pm
Your episode was my favorite. You’re really a cute couple and really cool girls, I thought we could become myspace friends. I wish you guys the best of luck in your marriage and life together!!
August 14th, 2007 at 5:35 pm
Your episode was my favorite. Hope you have a great marriage and life together!!
August 14th, 2007 at 5:49 pm
Hey,
I sure can relate to the early engagment. I was with my girl for just over a month before we got engaged. Familys were not/are not happy. However we will be getting married in Hawaii in November.
August 14th, 2007 at 6:39 pm
I watched your wedding on Engaged and Underaged on August 13th. I just wanted to know how did people react to you all dating as to making the big step and getting married being that you all are lesbians because I know the world can be so judgemental. Also, I came into the show a little late and what state do you all stay in and as well as was it just a ceremony that was held or are you legally married?
August 14th, 2007 at 7:13 pm
Hey. Just wanted to leave a blog and say congrats on the marriage. I’m happy for both of you and wish you the best. I was really surprised to see a lesbian couple on Engaged and Underage. I’m a lesbian too and my parents aren’t too accepting about it, probably cause I’m 15. It’s kinda hard and they just don’t want that kind of life for me. Well… have a good day.
Carmen
August 14th, 2007 at 8:12 pm
OMG when i saw ya all’s episode it made me think that there was hope for me and mi gf and that we dont have to keep a secret anymore cause it was eatin us both from the inside out and now i hop mtv puts more lesbians and gays on the shows it gives me hope
August 14th, 2007 at 8:24 pm
Your story is truly inspiring. For the longest time i hid my sexuality from my family and friends but your story gave me the courage to possibly come out. It gave me hope, and i really identified with Emelie when she mentioned that Cassie helped her beleive in the future. Well your show did the same for me….it put a face on what my future could be for not only me, but for the millions of closeted homosexuals trapped by societal expectations and morals. I am eternally grateful. Best of luck with your future union and please be strong. I truly beleive that love conquers all. LOVE you guys and thanks for giving me HOPE!
August 14th, 2007 at 9:07 pm
hey guys i watched ur episode n loved it its really nice to see two ppl n love n wont take no for an answer im only 15 but i kno dat im bi, ive known 4 a while now but i try to hide it because i dont want ppl to look at me different even thoi know they will….. i havent told my parents yet thats because i see how they react to seeing same sex couples on the tv and it makes me afraid to tell them so i think ill tell them when i move out and maybe go away to college hahaha. but yea i wish you both the best of luck in your marriage and i hope you find a place to love